DWarm summer night. The backyard is full of luscious greenery; deep blue pool water surface is reflecting the mellow starry sky. The Latin Lover appears in the window, outside the house, knocking. Alice has been waiting for him, slender, sexy, wearing her swimsuit, ready to take a plunge in the pool under the stars.

“I missed you,” she says as he’s undressing her without making a sound.

“How are you? Aren’t you going to say ‘Hi’ to me?”

“I am doing it right now,” he responds – touching and kissing her.

“This is how I greet you.”
All of their clothes are off…

“But… the neighbours”? Alice says cautiously.

“Are you really worried about the neighbours?”

The water is cool and sleek, hugging them, caressing them, swallowing into its depth. Adding to the erotic sensations of touch, they play in and out of the water. “He’s so creative and versatile” Alice is thinking, laying on top of the water, watching the stars, enjoying his lips on her clit.

“He’s here” – says the Latin Lover. She turns around – it is her Husband. “Will you join us?”

Two men, one woman, in the pool. “Come closer; I want to feel you both!” Kissing one at a time, touching – thank God for two hands! Feeling their firm sexy bodies underneath the cool water, sensing their touch and mouths on her, getting loud.

Time to warm up – a hot steamy shower – all three together in it.

Water… represents life, rebirth and pure happiness. That’s exactly how Alice is feeling right now. Birthing into an embodied sexual priestess, feeling pure happiness, joy, and expansion. She is redefining herself as a free, divinely sexual creature, and feeling as though a unique water healing ritual is taking place.

And as a culmination – even more liquid. This time all over the bed, carpet, and floor. Yep, quite messy – when you’re dealing with Alice, you’re facing a lot of cleaning afterward!

But the sights, sounds, and tastes are completely worth the work!

Order your copy of: Alice in PolyLand at www.aliceinpolyland.com

Sultry collection of stories, photographs & practical tips on accomplishing fantasies inspired by one woman’s adventures in Polyamory

Author: Evguenia from Spirit Sex Lab, Accredited Energy Therapist and Sexuality Educator with daily sexy blog on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube & Twitter

Armed with messages of love, sex and body-positivity, the AquaFlirts connected with York University students to share what Oasis Aqualounge has to offer; in particular, information on our weekly Sass After Class events. We thank the Absinthe Pub for welcoming our promotional team to participate in their event.

On Thursday February 14, the Oasis AquaFlirts donned their favorite lingerie and promoted at the Valentines Lingerie Mega Pub which was held at The Absinthe Pub on the York University campus.

Catch more of the Oasis AquaFlirts this spring and summer, around the city of Toronto. Or visit us and meet with them, at the club.

If you are familiar with the Oasis Aqualounge environment and are looking to work fun, flexible hours, contact info@oasisaqualounge.com, attention Miss F. We are always looking to add new faces to our promotional team.

The Oasis AquaFlirts hit the town last weekend in support of erotic art during at the Super Naughty Show; an annual exhibition of local talent held at the Super Wonder Gallery Our promotional team attended both nights and engaged with gallery attendees, many of whom were familiar with Oasis Aqualounge and shared our values of sex, body and kink positivity.

Special thank you to the Super Wonder Gallery for welcoming the AquaFlirts and for letting us share the space in order to extend the message of sexual liberation.

Oasis Aqualounge also supports local artists who wish to display their original, erotic art on our walls for sale.

If you are an artist looking for additional exposure, please email us at: info@oasisaqualounge.com to be connected to our our in-house art curator.

However you choose to express your desires, our sex-positive venue and community will embrace your endeavors!

Our resident artist Khabbie has provided an original drawing, along with lessons for aspiring illustrators. Kahbbie is also the host of our monthly Figures and Fantasies event, held on the first Monday, during Sass After Class

Hello everyone! I’m Tina, my art alias is Kahbbie and today I’m gonna briefly go over how to use references in a piece plus some tips and tricks that I use to make art and have fun while doing it.

Before I start with the how-tos of using references I’m going to say that doing so is great when you’re starting out or when you want to up your game a bit. Take a photo of your hand when you can’t figure out hands and so on.

For this piece I took a couple pictures of the packaging of Tom of Finland toys as they all have individual art pieces of gay men specifically for the poses because I love the way the characters interact.

Firstly lay out your basic shapes based on the reference. If you’re working with paper don’t be afraid to sit down with a printed copy of your reference photo and trace over the shapes and details to get a feel for where everything is before you draw it out.

Secondly, adjust things that aren’t working for you. I was having real trouble tilting back the head until I decided to just draw it neutrally, plus I adjusted the legs so that the strap on would shine through. If you’re drawing from reference to improve stuff that’s challenging simply give it your best shot, but if you’re just drawing from a photo you liked adjust whatever you want. It’s your art.

Thirdly make it your own! While it’s good to study by replicating the way other artists do things developing the skill to change things while having the piece still work is also an important skill! As you can see I changed the gender, skin tones, clothing, the general positions of arms and legs, the time of day, how zoomed in out view was, how much of the motorcycle can be seen and how much detail we can see and added a background while still maintaining my goal of keeping the general pose and the feeling of warm cuddly sex in an unconventional spot that the original photo has.

Lastly don’t be afraid to scrap an idea and try again! As you can see from the process video for this piece I had a different reference and pose in mind but found it was interesting enough to me so I erased everything and started again. A great art teacher once told me that sometimes you need to destroy your art to make it better and I find that advice works whenever I get stuck.

Go forth and enjoy your art!

Oasis Aqualounge is more than just a venue; we are a community hub for sex-positive businesses, educators and performers.  Our club is made up of wonderful employees who embrace our sexually-liberated, clothing-optional and body positive values.

This week, we are excited to showcase our Oasis AquaFlirts: Reia & Cece

If you love visiting Oasis Aqualounge and would like to be included, please email info@oasisaqualounge.com, attention Miss F.

What is your favorite part of Oasis Aqualounge?

Reia: The phenomenal atmosphere for sure! Our staff and patrons are lovely, curious, and opened minded people. We are in a lot of ways a community based establishment, and this allows us to hold a variety of themed nights to cater to those different communities. Each of our event nights have a different vibe, but each welcomes both new and established guests.

Cece: I love the community atmosphere, I love the kind and courteous environment. I love being able to walk around nude and that not change a thing. Throughout my time at Oasis I have met so many people who shared the most intimate yet informative information with me. Information that helped me find myself within the lifestyle.

What was your first visit like?

Reia:The artist in me keeps me on the curious side, so I only knew two things; that it existed, and that I needed to see what it was all about. After some discussion with my then, very hesitant partner, we agreed to take the plunge together. We had no idea what to expect, but it was a great first experience. It was a quick turnaround for even my partner to become comfortable and I find that really speaks to the welcoming and inclusive attitude of Oasis Aqualounge. The rest is history!

Cece: This is my favourite story! I tell it all the time. I showed up to Oasis the second I was able to. 19th birthday, exploring kink & polyamory in such a luxurious environment surrounded by such emotionally mature & liberated company. This place has always maintained the dreaminess I felt my first time here. I just feel a little more at home every day

When is your favorite time to visit the club and why?

Reia: Honestly, it always depends on my mood. Sometimes I feel like having a little downtime and other times I really want to live it up. That’s why I love that we cater to both relaxed, tranquil spa-like environment early in the day and then, as we creep into the later hours, the Djs turn up the music and it’s easy to dance the night away. Of course, if you want to slip up to our third or fourth floor there are different kinds of entertainment!

Cece: I personally really enjoy the club on a Wednesday evening. With event features like #DDLG presentations, Naked Yoga, Burlesque, etc. I seriously recommend it to EVERYONE.

However I also really enjoy Tuesday’s for Games Night, DTF, Bukkake & One of my All Time Favorite nights to be apart of is Money Shot. There’s a real diversity when it comes to everything you could ever possibly experience at Oasis on these two days and I really love that.

What drew you to the Oasis AquaFlirt position?

Reia: I blame that all on Ace! She originally suggested that I’d be a good fit for the team, and when I sat down with Fatima I knew immediately that I wanted the position. This job really allows me to extend and explore the passion and creativity that I already put into my performances in the burlesque industry. There are so many interesting characters being introduced into my life with this position and there is always something new to learn .

Cece: Once I started frequenting Oasis more as a guest I really started to mesh in with the community. It was someone I had become friends with who made me aware there was an AQF position at the club. I went home that night & immediately applied. I was still learning about Oasis and the lifestyle and what it all meant & what it entailed but I was 100% positive I wanted to be apart of it. I still am.

What was your most memorable AquaFlirt gig to date?

Reia: Our sixth year Sapphic Aquatica Party and Swordplay. I love that we can make this a healthy and comfortable space for our guests of all orientations, identities and genders! We are, at our core, an inclusive space no matter who or what you identify as. It’s a point of pride that we hold hold our selves up to a standard that makes a safe sexy environment for all.

Cece: Pride Week was one of my favourite AQF adventures. It was my first time attending pride. Where I was from before toronto Pride Parades were sooo not a thing. So to experience something so liberating and wonderful for the first time with some of the most awesome people (my fellow AQF squad), It certainly goes down in history as one of the best. We also got to educate so many other people about Oasis who all came back to the club with us in the evenings of Pride Week. It was the best form of community connecting.

What advice would you give someone who is considering visiting the club?

Reia: Whatever preconceived idea you have in your head, trash it. I’d love to set the scene for anyone interested in coming to Oasis. This is not like any place you’ve been before. Think of a modernized Roman bathhouse. Imagine yourself stepping outside and into a heated pool or hot tub. Afterwards you can relax luxuriously in a sauna or simply dry yourself off. You’re free to wear as much or as little as you please. There is no judgment or expectation of anything. You can sit down at the bar sip your favorite drink and maybe find yourself falling in a few interesting conversations. Maybe it’s one individual, maybe it’s with a group. Maybe someone you talk to piques your interest. The more you get talking the more you realize you have a lot in common, or perhaps you find yourself drawn to one another. Either way you decide to explore the rest of the house. The dungeon? Possibly. Maybe you stop to watch a burlesque show, or a demonstration, or scene in our ballroom. The two of decide to explore the third floor where you both notice other partners rolling around and kissing, caressing, fucking. It  could be you, if you choose. But, of course, if just the first part of this scene tickles your fancy Oasis Aqualounge has got you covered! Relax, unwind and play if you chose.

Cece: Just show up with no expectations. Please do not show up assuming you’re going to immediately get laid or you’re going to miss out on every other awesome aspect of the community around you! Make your goals: Learning about yourself, New Wants/Desires, Asking questions, Meeting people who also know about/are interested in those lifestyle aspects, Go for a swim, Watch Burlesque, Do naked yoga, etc. Do not set the bar of your experience so low as to believe you are ONLY going to get laid. First take time to really experience what’s around you because it could change your life!

What do you enjoy doing in your spare time?

Reia: If I’m not at Oasis I’m most likely designing and creating a variety of things. I adore working with my hands and learning new skills. I have so many ideas for costumes, art work, photoshoots, burlesque dances and more. It’s had to keep track of them all, so I usually have a notepad or sketch book handy to jot down ideas any time inspiration hits!

Cece: In my spare time I really find myself continuing to work. Whether it be at home or on the go. I model professionally part-time. Deal with Social Media Marketing. Create Adult Content as well as Cam Regularly.

However on the rare occasion I get a moment to truly unwind I love reading; mostly historical fiction or biographies.

Do you love to draw and/or model for erotic art? Check out our monthly Figures and Fantasies event on the first Monday of every month. We offer life drawings and the chance to express your sexual self through art. Students, singles and couples welcome.

Hello everyone! I’m Tina, my art alias is Kahbbie and today I’m gonna briefly go over how to let personality come through your art plus some tips and tricks that I use to make art and have fun while doing it.

I think when it comes to making your art as unique as you people generally lean on their art style but that’s just the foundation of what makes are unique and you can definitely build on it during the concept phase.
When I started this piece I knew I wanted to capture the feeling of spending the afternoon in bed masturbating to your heart’s content and I could’ve simply drawn a person under the covers in a bed with white sheets and no discernible features with a toy but that would be boring for me and for you. You’ll have way more fun when you turn your subject matter into something that only you could draw.

So I started with the character – who is she outside of the piece? Because I liked the punk character I designed in the last illustration and I recently saw Captain Marvel and have been digging the Mohawk look I decided to make the character have an alternative hairstyle and piercings, but I didn’t want to just make her a punk. Then I had the idea maybe she’s both a sporty person and a punk rock fan to subvert the idea that people can only be one or the other.

Then I moved to the masturbation aspect, how do you represent the idea that a person is masturbating for a long time with only one image? Using my offhand knowledge of the various kinds of sex toys available on the market I decided that drawing multiple toys of different shapes looking used around the character would subtly show that the character has been having fun for a while. Drawing what you know is also a part of bringing your personality into a piece.

(I also added in the lube and toy cleaner because they’re both important to playing with toys safely.)

Finally, color plays a huge part in making a piece unique and tells it’s own story. Purple is the most common color of sex toy and in terms of color theory represents luxury and magic – all associations I wanted to make the viewer have with the piece and used only colors that complimented it.

Marketing Director/ Event Producer Fatima Mechtab was featured on a recent episode of Sex With Rebecca; an online talk show about sexuality and relationships. Fatima chatted with host Rebecca Rosenblat about what couples can expect upon visiting Oasis Aqualounge, our roster of events and the amenities found inside our clothing-optional, water-themed, sexual adventure playground.

Curious to learn more? Check out this great episode or visit First Taste on Saturday April 13 where we offer new couples a tour and Q&A session at a reduced rate. Take the plunge and discover new ways to spice up your relationship.

The hosts of the sex-positive podcast Torrid Souls recently visited Oasis Aqualounge and discussed their experiences on their latest episode. We want to thank Tori and Soul (a same-sex, bisexual, female couple) for sharing their adventures at the club and for their support both in person and online via their Twitter account

Stay tuned for more content from Torrid Souls, including their review on our bi-monthly event Cougar and Cubs; an evening that celebrates mature women and younger men.

If you host a podcast and want to be featured on our website, contact us at: info@oasisaqualounge.com, attention Fatima Mechtab.

Amy Lloyd is a graphic designer and illustrator. She first fell in love with figure drawing at age 18 when she was invited to join a group of local artists in their weekly sessions in Liverpool NS. At NSCAD University, she continued to study figure drawing alongside graphic design and other drawing classes.

Currently, she enjoys hosting the monthly figure drawing sessions during Figures and Fantasies, where she has the opportunity to both practice and share her craft with others. Visit Amy from 9pm-12am on Monday May 6 for a personalized sketch.

Website: arckyart.com
Instagram: @arckyart

The Oasis AquaFlirts hit the town last weekend in support of local art and sexy, Sci-Fi exploration during at the Amazing Sci-Fi Show which was held at the Super Wonder Gallery Our promotional team attended both nights and engaged with gallery attendees and artists, some of whom were already familiar with Oasis Aqualounge, while others had interesting questions about the club, as they were curious to visit. As always, the AquaFlirts added positive and welcoming energy to an exciting evening that aligned well with the clubs’ message of sex/body-positivity.

Oasis Aqualounge also supports local artists who wish to display their original, erotic art on our walls for sale. If you are an artist looking for additional exposure, please email us at: info@oasisaqualounge.com to be connected to our in-house art curator. However you choose to express your desires, our sex-positive venue and community will embrace your endeavors!

Catch the Oasis AquaFlirts around the city of Toronto, this coming summer. They will be present at events like World Naked Bike Ride, Pride 2019 and many more to come. Learn more about our clothing-optional, female-focused adult playground from those who are passionate about spreading the message about Oasis Aqualounge.

On Saturday May 4th, the Oasis AquaFlirts celebrated World Naked Gardening Day; an annual, worldwide observance held on the first Saturday in May

Both AquaFlirts and customers gathered at the club to plant potted  flowers from 2pm-5pm,  decorating our front patio with fresh,  floral arrangements.  Customers were permitted to take home a small, potted flower as a thank you for their contribution to the event.

Everyone enjoyed a fun afternoon in the sunshine.  We made new friends while embracing the message of body acceptance and the beauty of spring.

With the warm weather finally upon us, the Oasis AquaFlirts will be making more public appearances, spreading the word and values of Oasis Aqualounge. 

Catch the Oasis AquaFlirt team on Sunday May 26 at the first Pedestrian Sunday, in Kensington Market. Follow their adventures on Twitter and Instagram.

We are excited to feature new artwork on our walls by Ottawa artist Meredith Lyman. This exclusive collection of sensuous prints will be available for purchase from May 24 until August, 2019.

These original creations implement bright colors and erotic themes, with the intent to command the attention of the room and to evoke passion in the viewer. 

Meredith has been painting for 25 years as a professional artist as well as painting faces as a make-up artist for television and film. 

You can meet Meredith in person on Friday May 24 for Erotic Art Night, as she will also be our featured body painter. From 10pm-1am, guests are welcome to take to the stage for complimentary body painting. Allow your body to be her canvas as she applies water-resistant paints to your bare skin.

If you would like to inquire about purchasing prints or if you are an artist who would like your art shown on our walls, please email info@oasisaqualounge.com directly.

What is the first thing you think about when you think about turning the ‘legal drinking age’?

As a teenager, you spend so much time anticipating the day that you can get into the clubs. Dance, meet people; go out with your girlfriends or your “bros”. For me, I knew exactly where I wanted to be on my 19th birthday (the legal drinking age in Canada): Oasis Aqualounge. To make my 19th birthday a night to remember I was 100% going to be at Toronto’s upscale adult playground. 

In short, it was the best night of my life, and now? I get to live my best life, every day. I knew that I wanted this place to be a part of my life and it only took me three weeks to land my dream job. Nearly two years later, it’s still my dream job.

My name is Cecilia Morrell, otherwise known as ‘Cece’ and I’m an event hostess, Oasis AquaFlirt, Brand Ambassador & Sybian operator at Oasis Aqualounge.

My job is to ensure that every visit you make to Oasis is a good one; whether it is your first visit, or your twelfth visit. Unlike many clubs in North America, Oasis is open seven days a week from 11am to 3am, so I am one of about 40 staff. As an event hostess, I am here to make sure the night’s festivities are running smooth & that you are enjoying your experience.

One of my favorite parts of hosting events are the conversations I get to have with new or familiar faces. I love providing people with the tools they need to enjoy the environment. Whether is making introductions, providing tours, sharing information on certain lifestyle tips or providing a run-down on what the evening holds in store.

As an Oasis AquaFlirt, I transitioned into a brand ambassador. The AquaFlirt team are a group of sex and body-positive employees who travel around to different events, within the city limits, to share information on Oasis Aqualounge as well as hand out coupons for the venue.

Some of my favorite experiences include the times where we were able to share our values with people who were not aware that Oasis existed but who instantly fell in love with our mission statement.  

As AquaFlirts we have a positive effect on the community around us. We participate in events such as World Naked Bike Ride and we have participated in the annual Intersectional Go Topless March to support the idea nudity in and of itself should not be sexualized without consent and protest sexual harassment.

I think it’s important to bring visibility to these issues and to bring attention to the fact that sexuality is healthy and beautiful; there should not be so much shame and negative stigma attached. Bringing sex-positivity out of the shadows and encouraging a healthy view on sex, kink and relationships is so important.

Lastly as Sybian operator, I have the joy of helping to facilitate new, orgasmic experiences for people looking to explore with a new toy. Speaking from personal experience, I know how fun it can be to explore new limits, learn new ways to enjoy a better sex life & experiment with masturbation in a public setting.

I like to educate people on the Sybian and walk them through their first time, as a rider. I would say I ‘hold their hand’ through the process but in reality, I mostly hold the buttons.  It’s important to me that, although I may be in charge of the controls, that I make people aware that I am not in control of their experience. I encourage communication; what can I do to make this the best experience for you? I find so much happiness in ensuring that I am providing them the best possible Sybian experience.

Over the last two years, I’ve had the honor of being a part of people’s first orgasms, first anal experiences, first time in exploring their sexuality in a public setting and many more beautiful stories of self-discovery.

In reality I could say that when it comes to all aspects of my career at Oasis, I have had the honor of being a small piece of so many beautiful journeys of sexual and self-discovery. That is why- from day one- this was my dream job. That is why nearly two years late, it is still my dream job.

On Sunday May 26, the Oasis AquaFlirts visited Kensington Market for Pedestrian Sunday; a day in the market where the streets are closed off to welcome foot traffic, street art and entertainment.

Armed with colorful, branded balloons and welcoming smiles, the AquaFlirts pounded the sunny streets to pass along information about Oasis Aqualounge and to share our values of sex and body positivity.

They engaged with those who were already familiar with the club and took time to answer questions from people who were curious about the venue.

You can catch the Oasis AquaFlirts all summer long at various street festivals, Pride 2019 and inside Oasis Aqualounge. To learn more, follow the AquaFlirts on Twitter and Instagram. Feel free to drop us an email at info@oasisaqualounge.com if you have questions about the club and our Events Calendar.

Join us on the first Monday of every month for our art event Figures & Fantasies, which is held during our Sass After Class feature. Whether you are an experienced artist or new to expressing your creative self, Figures & Fantasies welcomes all skill levels for an evening of drawing, modelling and interactive activities inside our clothing-optional, sex-positive environment.

Our on-site artist Amy Llloyd will provide guests will complimentary life drawings from 9pm-12am on Monday June 3. Amy Lloyd is a graphic designer and illustrator. She first fell in love with figure drawing in high school after joining a group of local artists in weekly sessions. She studied at NSCAD University, a conceptual art school in Nova Scotia. There, she continued to study figure drawing alongside graphic design and other drawing classes. Now, she enjoys hosting monthly figure drawing sessions at Oasis Aqualounge where she has the opportunity to practice and share her craft with others. 

Website: arckyart.com
Instagram: @arckyart

We are excited to introduce a new feature for guests of Oasis Aqualounge; Multi Visit Packages. Oasis Multi Visit Packages are designed for guests who are caught in between buying a 4 month membership and paying for single visits. Similar to our Weekend Pass for couples, these packages will allow guests to save on admission prices by buying multiple visits at once. Our packages allow guests to use their visit vouchers anytime, within 4 months of their purchase and we have various options for both singles and couples.

Option 1: Sunday-Wednesday-Three Visit Package

As the name suggests, this package contains three, one-time visit vouchers for solo men or couples to visit the club from Sunday to Wednesday. Admission restrictions will still apply for Sunday day events (couples and women only) and Sapphic (no cisgender men). This package retails at $180.

Option 2: Anytime Three Visit Package

This package includes three, one-time visit vouchers for solo men or couples to attend Oasis on any given day.  Admission restrictions will still apply for all events. This package costs $240

For more information, please email info@oasisaqualounge.com or inquire within, with an employee at Oasis Aqualounge.

Our fabulous promotional team-the Oasis AquaFlirts-hit the Church and Wellesley Village on Saturday June 15 to attend Nuit Rose; a festival of queer arts, in celebration of Pride 2019.

The team began at The 519 -Space For Change on Church Street to chat with Nuit Rose festival goers, who congregated outside Barbara Hall Park. The Oasis AquaFlirts spoke to a receptive audience about the sex and body-positive values of Oasis Aqualounge; providing discounted admission coupons to encourage first-time visitors.

Armed with colorful, ‘Proud & Flirty’ balloons and amazing energy, the AquaFlirts then moved on to the Village streets to promote Oasis Aqualounge to those who were curious to hear more about our event offerings, facilities and programming for the upcoming Pride 2019 festivities. The team received many inquiries as well as positive feedback from those who have visited the club before.

Catch the Oasis AquaFlirts this coming weekend (June 21-June 23) as they continue to spread the values of Oasis Aqualounge and answer questions during Pride 2019. You can also meet the AquaFlirts this summer at various summer festivals, happening in the city of Toronto. They look forward to meeting you!

The Oasis AquaFlirts celebrated Pride 2019 this past weekend, in downtown Toronto. Our promotional team brought their signature warmth and colorful personalities that matched the blue skies and sunny weekend weather.

Throughout the Pride Streetfair , the Oasis AquaFlirts shared the message of sexual freedom, body confidence, diversity and inclusivity; values embraced by the club and it’s patrons. For those who were unfamiliar with Oasis Aqualounge, the team provided information about our facilities and events. Those who had a chance to meet the Aquaflirts were treated to our ‘Proud & Flirty’ branded balloons.

Catch the Oasis AquaFlirts all summer long at upcoming events and festivals in the city. If you are looking to join the team, send an email to info@oasisaqualounge.com, attention Miss F. We are always looking to add brand ambassadors who are familiar with the club and embrace our values.

Call me a perv (no, please-it’s a compliment!) but I love to be surrounded by the sweet cacophony of sex sounds. Luckily, as the Marketing Director for Oasis Aqualounge-a sex club located in the heart of downtown Toronto-I can indulge in aural pleasure, seven days a week, from 11am-3am.

Oasis Aqualounge embraces a sex-positive attitude, which means that the business “…promotes and embraces sexuality and sexual expression, with an emphasis on joy (and) consensual sex.”  We assume a shame-free stance on sexual pleasure; healthy sexuality is for everyone and every body. We uphold and support ongoing, active consent between partners and we do not judge what brings someone physical and/or emotional joy.

Spending time inside sex club really opens your eyes (and ears) to what genuine pleasure looks, sounds and smells like; sexuality has the power to evoke all of the senses. But for some, vocalizing and/or hearing sexual gratification or alarming slaps and spanks during kink play can be intimidating.

Recently, a friend confided in me that their partner is sometimes overwhelmed by the sounds of her orgasms. Being the sexually progressive person that I am, I immediately judged the partner’s reaction as sex-negative and body shaming. Having an orgasm (or five) in front of your partner(s) is one of the most vulnerable states you can be in.

As an enthusiastic and vocal person myself, I don’t plan to scream out loud; it’s just what my body does, in response to feeling unbelievably amazing as a result of how my partner is touching or fucking me.  I find vocal expression also helps to embrace the full-body power of the orgasm. Also, as a sex-positive woman who is nearing her mid-forties, I am unlearning my sexual shame; I am now a loud and proud cummer!

However, upon further examination, it’s easy to equate the shame around vocalizing pleasure to how mainstream society views sexuality, in general; particularly towards women. Mainstream images of sexuality are still quite narrow; thin, youthful bodies that embrace traditional femininity are favored as sexual beings. Sex is shown as easy-breezy, mess-free fun where everyone has the same type of ethereal, transcendent orgasm that is also kept within a controlled volume. Sheets stay white, wet spots are non-existent and no one ever farts, laughs, cries or gets a leg cramp. Yea, right.

Couples who are parents to young children may have developed a habit of having inhibited, quiet sex; no parent wants to wake up a sleeping child with their own sex noises. For couples looking to escape the restrictions of their family home, a visit to Oasis Aqualounge could offer a refreshing and liberating way to connect intimately as sexually, expressive adults.

It’s no wonder that sounds which deviate from soft sighs or gentle moans could be jarring to a person that has only ever been exposed to what is deemed ‘acceptable.’ Inside the walls of Oasis Aqualounge, I have heard screams, cackles, whoops, grunts, giggles, groans and a string of expletives used in only the most delicious way.  I have also be privy to silent orgasms, soft orgasms, whispers and long, robust sighs. 

I feel grateful to exist between the walls of Oasis Aqualounge where the vocalization of pleasure is encouraged and where healthy, authentic forms of intimacy and erotic expression flourish between consenting adults. For anyone who has ever been afraid of their own sex noises, I recommend listening to other people have sex. Not only does it normalize a basic human reaction, it could help you to get out of your own sexual shell.

A crescendo of orgasmic cries rising in climax is a beautiful and mighty sound. Find your own voice and join the choir found inside our sexually charged, clothing-optional and shame-free environment.

Fatima Mechtab
Marketing Director. Event Producer. Owner

The hosts of the sex-positive podcast Torrid Souls  recently visited our bi-monthly Cougar, Cubs & Kittens event; an evening that celebrates mature women and the young people who love them. In their latest episode, Tori and Sol discuss the term cougar , the societal biases around that identity and their experiences at the event. Cougars, Cubs & Kittens is part of our regular Sass After Class programming; it encourages mature women to embrace their sexual prowess and younger guests to navigate through flirtation, seduction and consent.

We want to thank Tori and Soul (a same-sex, bisexual, female couple) for sharing their adventures at the club and for their support both in person and online via their Twitter account. If you host a podcast and want to be featured on our website, contact us at: info@oasisaqualounge.com, attention Fatima Mechtab.